What if There's Nothing Wrong With You | Susan Henkels | TEDxSedona

Pubblicato il 17 gen 2019
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We often design our lives around a long list of all the things we believe are wrong with us. The premise of this presentation questions our interpretation of right and wrong and how that interpretation ultimately determines how we decide who we will become as adults, how we choose our important relationships, how we pick our professions, how or if we parent, and what determines the quality of the life we choose. This presentation is a discovery toward what's in the way of having the life you deserve and an easier and more fun way of getting there. You will find ways of releasing judgment and criticism of yourself, begin to consider forgiveness of yourself and others, start making wiser choices, and expand your passion for contribution. Asking the question: What if there's nothing wrong with you?....... can become an ongoing practice for life." usan Munich Henkels. M.S.W is a psychotherapist focused on resolving relationship issues with yourself, your partner, families, family business and organizations. She is committed to clear and honest communication for the best possible outcomes. She is a graduate of the University of Michigan and received a Masters’ degree in Social Work from the George Warren Brown School of Social Work, Washington University in St. Louis, MO.
Susan is also an avid colored pencil artist with a passion for drawing trees and the magic they hold. She has many original drawings in private and public collections and has shown at the Sedona Arts Center and several international and national colored pencil exhibitions.
Out of listening for over 45 years to thousands of people talking about all that’s wrong with them, she presents today "What If There is Nothing Wrong With You" This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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Commenti: 531  
  • Sarah DuBois

    Sarah DuBois

    2 anni fa

    My most favorite quote "If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete" -buddha

  • L catherine

    L catherine

    3 anni fa

    "What if there is nothing wrong with you?" cried at that thought alone. Cause if thats the case, then I'm so sorry to myself for the ridiculous amount of time I take out of every day nagging myself about the things that may or may not be wrong with me. Time is precious. (thanks for the likes. weird to say but it made me happy to see in a sense of 400 of you read it and could relate to what I said. feeling of use. thanks :)

  • B Simpson

    B Simpson

    3 anni fa

    “...create an entire life around decisions we made when we were probably five years old.”

  • Crystelle Saleh

    Crystelle Saleh

    3 anni fa

    Susan Henkels, I doubt you will ever know how far-reaching and profound the impact of your words will be, how many people may be affected by the people who were affected by you. I do think you've done something that will outlive you. Thank you. - From a psychology student who will never forget what you've said here.

  • nadja andersen

    nadja andersen

    3 anni fa

    What a wonderful woman. I love how she shows vulnerability and strength all at once. Inspiring and freeing words of wisdom.

  • Jess A.

    Jess A.

    3 anni fa

    This was a direct hit for me! I've been mentally sabotaging myself all my life. I will try to treat myself better everyday! ❤

  • Purple Pepper

    Purple Pepper

    2 anni fa

    After years of beating myself up over my insecurities, this TED talk has been a balm. What if there's nothing wrong with me?

  • surlespasdondine


    3 anni fa

    I was told I was "impossible" as a child. Only now learning there was nothing wrong with me at all.

  • Ambi Cahira

    Ambi Cahira

    3 anni fa

    The road to forgive yourself is to set up a rule that you only permit thoughts that are the same kindness and compassion as you would say to a best friend or stranger in your shoes. If it would be considered bullying if you said it to someone else then you don't deserve it either. You can never be happy with a bully living rent free in your head so you need to evict it. Don't treat yourself worse than you treat a stranger.

  • Vécio Nandes

    Vécio Nandes

    Anno fa

    I really paused the talk to give myself a deep immersion in this advice:

  • Kerry


    Anno fa

    I was given a whole list of insults -mostly by my mother alone, both growing up and

  • Jaime Agudos Tacuyan Jr.

    Jaime Agudos Tacuyan Jr.

    Anno fa

    Forgiving yourself was a very serious topic to a lot of people and it was well address in a very humorous manner in this talk 💪

  • Viv Wallace

    Viv Wallace

    2 anni fa

    At first I was a little confused. "There is nothing wrong with you." As soon as I heard that I was thinking: if I told myself this everyday and believed it then would I still be able to accept criticism from others? Would I still be able to reflect on my actions and better myself? I would turn into an arrogant snob because I would believe that I am perfect!

  • moon shine

    moon shine

    3 anni fa

    The best TED I've ever seen! Thank you so much Susan for realising that there is nothing wrong with you, thank you for forgiving yourself and be free again to talk as you want, thank you for making these knowledge available, thank you for spreading this wonderful message! I am glad you exist and are who you are! Thanks again! Your words made me free again.

  • Y


    Anno fa

    I was beaten by my parents when I did something ‘wrong’ and ‘unacceptable’, this stays with me and I have been critical about myself. Until recently, my life coach told me if I can’t forgive myself, no one else can. This video completely explained the message I long for too. Thank you.

  • John Rae Guimbungan

    John Rae Guimbungan

    3 anni fa

    I wish you a long long life, madam! this world need you badly in these dark times

  • Tierra Petersen

    Tierra Petersen

    2 anni fa

    This is so beautiful in a day and age where so many people are making a living off of what we should be, how we should think, what we should do and it usually comes down to what we should buy.

  • Zimmejay


    3 anni fa

    My Dad died a week ago today. This talk came to me at the right time. We were heavily abused.



    3 anni fa

    This is great advice Susan! I believe there is a lot less wrong with us than we think, because at every corner someone is trying to convince us that there is something wrong. Thank you.

  • Corinne Graham

    Corinne Graham

    Anno fa

    Thank you for adding value to our lives.